Hey there Calm & Confident Parents,
This week I got a question I could definitely relate to: dealing with a super active child who won't listen when it's inappropriate for them to be dancing, jumping, or running around (like at a museum on vacation).
These parents tried explaining they were in an inappropriate venue for dancing. He would stop for a second but then start up again - even coming close to knocking something over (thankfully mom had quick reflexes!).
They ended the day super frustrated - understandably so! I KNOW they are not alone.
So let's talk about what to do with super active kids when we're going someplace where they won't be able to run amok like they want to.
First, I want to remind everyone that I don't believe this child is being deliberately defiant - it sounds like he has a STRONG urge to move his body.
Being a young child with an undeveloped prefrontal cortex, strong urges are HARD to control - he needs help from calm and confident parents.
The easiest solution? When planning family outings, consider your child's temperament and capabilities. Really imagine your family in the setting (not the family you sometimes wish you had 😊) - will this be worth it? Is now the right season for this?
Just because other people say you have to do it doesn't mean you actually have to.
Here's permission to skip the museum and stick to parks and beaches where your child running and jumping and dancing will only make it more fun!
This isn't forever - they keep growing up and will have more capacity to control their urges as they get older.
But let's say you don't have a choice - work trip, family reunion, or once-in-a-lifetime opportunity so you really do feel like you HAVE to go - what can you do?
