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Hey Calm & Confident Parents,
We've all been there, walking on eggshells because we don’t know which wrong move will set our child off.
In these moments, our logical parent brain jumps to phrases like "It's not a big deal" or "You're fine." Or trying to reason with them. And what happens next? Instead of calming down, our children often escalate further!
Why? Because they don't feel heard.
Think about it from your perspective. After a challenging day of parenting (not a crazy incident but the constant small demands with no breaks) you finally break down when your partner walks in.
How would you feel if their response was:
"That's what you're complaining about? Let me tell you about MY day..."
"Why don't you just try playing with them more? I bet everyone would be happier."
"You're fine. It was your idea to have kids… you should be thankful."
Most of us would feel MORE frustrated, not less. We might even escalate our own emotional response just to make our partner understand how truly upset we are.
Our children are no different. When their big feelings are dismissed, they don't calm down—they amplify to be heard.
The solution? Validation. It's a simple but powerful tool that can transform these difficult moments.
Interested in learning exactly how to validate your child's feelings effectively?
